The curves of the guitar left behind

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Today is my late husband’s birthday. Last year, we had hoped for another birthday, one we could celebrate in Brazil. He had wanted to recover and spend his next significant day at the Copacabana Palace, watch a show at “Beco das Garrafas,” and enjoy a beer at the “calçadão de Copacabana.”.

His birthdays were typically spent here in Sacramento, and I endeavored to make these days special for him: a pleasant dinner after work and a cake from the (now also defunct) local Austrian bakery, Konditorei. However, Jeffrey wasn’t particularly fond of his birthday, holidays, or any special day. He found the most joy when he could play his guitar skillfully, and these special occasions often interfered with this contentment, as people attempted to make him happy through other means.

Today, on August 26, 2023, I will be dining alone in an empty house where the strumming of guitars is now absent. The fate of survivors. It’s a moment to reflect on all that has transformed in my life: first, when Jeffrey became a part of it, and then again when he departed. I contemplate those who welcomed baby Jeffrey into this world 71 years ago, all of whom have also passed away. Amidst these thoughts, I hold gratitude for the time I had with him.

Below a composite photo of Jeffrey and a page of one of his fake books, also left behind.

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26 responses to “The curves of the guitar left behind”

  1. Steve Schwartzman Avatar

    It must have been hard for you to write this.

    The curve of the guitar in the top picture could be the simplified outline of a woman (guitarra is feminine, after all).

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    1. Alessandra Chaves Avatar

      It’s hard for me to write anything ( in English) but this one was also emotionally hard. I agree about the guitar outline.

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      1. Steve Schwartzman Avatar

        I know of two Germans living in English-speaking countries who have bilingual blogs. That’s extra work but it reaches a wider pool of readers. Have you ever considered writing your text in Portuguese as well as English?

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      2. Alessandra Chaves Avatar

        I have thought but haven’t done anything about it. More unpaid work.

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  2. Anne Sandler Avatar

    Beautiful and heartfelt tribute for your husband Alessandra. I love the opening guitar image.

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    1. Alessandra Chaves Avatar

      Thank you.

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  3. mich Avatar

    A poignant remembrance — indeed, yes, ‘the fate of survivors.’

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    1. Alessandra Chaves Avatar

      No doubt. It’s lonely yet everyone wants to be that who survives.

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  4. shoreacres Avatar

    Both of your photos beautifully express the importance of his music to Jeffrey. I will say that the first really captured my attention. My first thought was of Matisse’s line drawings, like this. While the photo is of the guitar, that strong curved line also evokes a human shape. It’s a beautiful melding of the man and his preferred way of making music.

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    1. Alessandra Chaves Avatar

      Yes, thank you and for the link.Jeffrey was born to play the guitar.

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  5. GeoDel PhotoTravelogue Avatar

    So sorry for your loss but also so happy that you celebrate his existence.

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    1. Alessandra Chaves Avatar

      Thank you.

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  6. cabanisi Avatar

    I’m sorry for your loss. Your story reminds me of losing my father-in-law many years ago. Aside from tears and memories, all that was left behind was his well-played guitar hanging on the wall…
    Peace to you.

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    1. Alessandra Chaves Avatar

      Thank you.

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  7. syrettp Avatar

    I like th

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    1. Alessandra Chaves Avatar

      The comment was interrupted…

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  8. Antonio Mozeto Avatar

    I am sorry for the loss of your husband, Alessandra. But it is good to see you writing and creating a post with photographs on that.

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    1. Alessandra Chaves Avatar

      Obrigada 🙏

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  9. Steve Gingold Avatar

    Both images are very evocative and knowing the story makes them even more so. Beautifully done, Alessandra. A fitting memorial.

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    1. Alessandra Chaves Avatar

      Thank you.

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  10. Average Images Avatar

    Nicely written & very moving.

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    1. Alessandra Chaves Avatar

      Thank you. I like the title of your site. 😉

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  11. howg2211 Avatar
    howg2211

    I’m so sorry for your loss. I know there is nothing one can say to bring you solace. A beautiful tribute.

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    1. Alessandra Chaves Avatar

      There’s no need to. We are here in this life, among other things, to experience loss. It’s a universal rather than personal experience. Thanks for dropping by and commenting.

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  12. tierneycreates: a fusion of textiles and smiles Avatar

    That is a beautiful tribute and I am sure the music he made still plays in your heart.

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    1. Alessandra Chaves Avatar

      Thank you. Yes it is.

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